Balancing hip pain with motherhood is not for the faint of heart. It’s a daily battle that, at times, can make us feel like we’re falling short. But let me remind you, mama—you are anything but weak. My kids have only known me as a mom with hip pain, and while that breaks my heart a little, it’s also their norm. My oldest was just two when the pain began, and my younger two have never known me without it. It’s a bittersweet reality, but one I’ve had to embrace.
Being an active mom with chronic pain is a challenge like no other. I remember when we lived in a two-story home, and the stairs felt like my worst enemy. On those tough days, we had to get creative. I put together a bin with diapers, wipes, and a change of clothes, but I also made sure to have a stash of easy activities ready for when my body just couldn’t keep up. We read countless books, my kids would put on puppet shows, or we’d settle in for a movie with snacks. It sounds so simple, maybe even lazy to some, but those moments were filled with love and connection.
As moms, we’re often our own worst critics. We worry about being judged, about whether we’re doing enough. But let me tell you—if your kids are smiling, laughing, and feeling loved, then you are doing more than enough. I had to learn to stop comparing myself to other moms (and yes, I know that’s easier said than done). What mattered most was making sure my kids felt happy and secure, even on the days when my hip pain was at its worst.
On good hip days, we’d choose one activity to tackle—just one, because that was all my body could handle. If it was grocery shopping, then that was our big task for the day. If we wanted to hit the playground, I knew that would be it for the day. It wasn’t easy, especially without the support system that so many talk about. Family was states away, and with my husband’s demanding career, I had to figure out how to do it all on my own.
But you adapt. You find what works for you and your family. There are plenty of low-impact activities you can do with your kids that won’t leave you in tears by the end of the day. On those tougher days, we’d sit down and talk. I’d explain to my kids why mommy couldn’t do everything they wanted, but that we’d find other ways to have fun. They’d come with me to my doctor’s appointments because I didn’t have a choice, and most of the doctors were wonderful about letting them ask questions or answering the ones I brought for them.
Motherhood with chronic pain is all about balance and survival. Sometimes, that means ordering takeout because standing in front of the stove feels impossible. And that’s okay—your kids are fed, and that’s what matters.
Low-Impact Activities for Moms with Hip Pain
- Story Time & Puppet Shows: Gather your little ones for a cozy story session or let them put on a puppet show. It’s engaging for them and restful for you.
- Arts & Crafts: Set up a simple arts and crafts station where your kids can let their creativity flow while you supervise from the comfort of a chair.
- Outdoor Picnics: Lay out a blanket in the yard or at a park. The kids can run around while you relax and enjoy the fresh air.
- Sensory Play: Create a sensory bin with rice, pasta, or water beads. It’s a great way to keep little hands busy without requiring you to be on your feet.
- Interactive Learning: Use educational apps or puzzles that you can do together while sitting comfortably.
Tips for Balancing Motherhood and Chronic Hip Pain
- Communicate Openly: Be honest with your kids about your limitations. It helps them understand and builds empathy.
- Simplify Tasks: Break down your day into manageable chunks. Focus on one major task a day and celebrate small victories.
- Lean on Your Support System: If you have friends or family nearby, don’t hesitate to ask for help. And if you don’t, look into local support groups or online communities.
- Self-Care is Essential: Don’t forget to take time for yourself. Whether it’s a quiet cup of tea, a warm bath, or just a few moments of deep breathing, self-care is crucial.
- Prepare for the Bad Days: Have a plan in place for when your pain flares up—easy meals, simple activities, and a backup plan for help if needed.
Remember, mama, you are not alone in this journey. Hip pain may be a part of your life, but it doesn’t define your motherhood. You are strong, capable, and exactly the mom your kids need, just as you are.